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August 2008 
Cutting the cord.
Posted on Aug 10th, 2008
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Kristen
Kristen
This is in Response to the Questions and Reflections for August 10, 2008:
Today, I've been paying particular attention to forgiveness. I've been harboring resentment towards a loved one. We had a huge argument back in November, and since then I continually express my sorrow and have pleaded for her to speak with me again. She and I were best friends and this has been more difficult for me to bare than a break up with an ex. We expect that boyfriend girlfriend relationships have a chance of terminating. We never enter friendships with the notion that they will end. At least I didn't.
Until now. I pine over her more than any lover I ever had, or have. Of course she isn't my lover. But our relationship our friendship exceeded infatuation. Our emotional intimacy was so great, so genuine. And now so gone.
I have come to a realization that friendship cannot be sustained by one person. I am the only one who believes in us. I should be focusing more energy on the people who show me love back. I should be cultivating those new relationships, instead of crying over the ghost of a dead one.
Today I acknowledge my forgiveness towards my friend, but I realize it is time to metaphorically cut the cord between us. Today I pay attention to my greatness as a friend, and realize that I am not at a loss, because I have a sincere desire to give, to grow, and to share my personality, and my light with others.
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Hi Kristen,
Sometimes, we cannot fix the situation by wanting or needing to be understood. Often, we cannot know what to do even if we try everything we can think of to no avail. Trust that at some point you may cross paths again. Let this be a miracle. In the meantime, know that you tried to reconcile the difference (whatever that was between you) so you can move forward in a positive light.
We are merely human. All that we can be is the best person at this very moment. :>} Let go.
kalyse
Its impossible to mend if the willingness on both parties isn't there. One magical thing is to find who the third party was between you. For any conflict to occur, an unknown third party must be present somewhere during that period of conflict. This would be a person that was talking about you behind your back to her, and visa versa. They spread a lie or exaggerate something to make the other feel they are in bad. Then, when the parties come together after one of these third party characters spread their poison, they fight.
What a great idea to cut the cord in the spiritual universe. Spotting the third party (which is usually the first person that comes to mind) fixes the scene back to knew where the two people can come together or not, but truth prevails once the person that helped cause the conflict is spotted or located.